This list is partly for me, and partly for everyone else who needs to be a little more confident. When a person is confident, they really shine in everything they do. Everything in this list has applied to me – either one way or another. Click below to read more.
1) Your relationship suffers.
When you have low self esteem, you are constantly worried about someone who is “better” than you taking away your boyfriend or even friends. You start to become jealous over silly things because you’re too insecure in your own relationship. Know that the person you are with chose you not only because they are attracted to you, but also the connection you two have together. Everyone can have a physical spark but not everyone can have that emotional connection.
2) You think people are constantly judging you.
Happens to me all the time. If someone takes too long to respond to me or doesn’t answer me at all- I automatically assume they hate me. I remember this one time I was walking to class and these group of people behind me were laughing, for some weird reason I automatically assumed they were laughing at me. It seems so ridiculous now, but at that time I felt embarassed and really uncomfortable. Live for yourself and don’t let anyone control your life.
You begin to agree with what people tell you whether it’s good or bad. Even if that person is acting out of line, you think to yourself, “Well… yea I guess they are right, I deserve what they’re saying to me or about me.” That is not the case. Be proud of who you are and know that people who put you down have their own insecurities.
When you put yourself down, you don’t think of yourself as someone who is important. Even in school you will suffer, I hated group projects because I hated voicing my opinions. I honestly thought no one would care about what I had to say.
4) You don’t take advantage of opportunities.
You start to doubt yourself and this in turn affects your future. An example would be you getting a job offer from a company but turning it down because you think you lack the qualifications and the experience to perform well. You don’t ask for a raise because you’re too scared to.